by Madalina Olteanu, Bucharest

by Madalina Olteanu, Bucharest

Vulgarity isn't the right way to represent LGBT members in parades

07 Jun, 2019

by Madalina Olteanu, Bucharest

LGBT rights have always been a controversial topic worldwide, even though, from a legal standpoint, progress has been made – especially in the last years. However, proper inclusion cannot be achieved if LGBT members militate for their rights in the wrong manner, sending a message that has nothing to do with their genders or sexual orientations.

Lately, pictures from pride parades in several countries have been published, showing a rather disturbing face of the events which are supposed to raise awareness – one of the most questionable aspects is that of children being exposed to nudity and simulated sexual acts.

It’s true that pride parades are a way of manifesting your identity without shame, but people tend to omit a crucial difference – they’re made for you to express your sexual orientation and gender freely, but not your sexuality. It is hypocritical to demand classes where children would learn about LGBT and respond to critic regarding nudity and simulated sexual acts with phrases like “leave your children at home”, which has often happened on social media. Is it truly right to demand awareness, but to deprive young generations of it simply because they’re not “old enough” to watch certain things? Is it not rather a problem within the way some LGBT members choose to expose such acts?

When asking for human rights, which is nothing but vital, you have to decide whether you want to be seen as equal, or as privileged. If you’re going to pick the first option, then you’ll have to obey the same laws that everybody else around you respects. This means that, regardless of the purpose of any parade or public manifestation, the participants have to support their ideas in a civilized manner that can create a correct image of what the community is really like, especially for the ones who are against it.

How could the majority see the importance of supporting LGBT members, which is critical especially in ex-communist or fundamentally religious countries, when they see militants in fetish costumes that act inappropriately? You don’t have to be gay or trans in order to have nonconventional sexual preferences. There are cis, straight people out there who enjoy BDSM, animal kinks and anything else that is frowned upon – if you make these preferences representative of your community, LGBT will end up being fetishized, making it impossible for third parties to take any demands seriously, no matter how relevant they are.

When you’re part of a discriminated group, militating has to be done by people who are informed and willing to treat the matter with maturity – if you are unable to take such events seriously, no one else will either. Find the real problems within your community, listen to the sufferance of your peers and fight for a better world; people are being more and more open-minded about it, so your effort won’t be in vain. However, if you want it to be effective as well, you have to be the better person – show children what it’s truly like to be an LGBT member, and let grown-ups see the true faults within the society; and then, both your conversations and the way you’re seen in the world will change drastically for the better.